I am in the middle of a great opportunity in my workplace. I am part of a group learning the art of Integrity Coaching. We have homework weekly and this week's homework is to focus on emotional responses.
I've jumped off my balance beam of life - and am weaving work and life together. I've always compared and contrasted my learnings at home and work.
My husband is really good at keeping emotions in check. When a teenager does what teenagers often do he will bring humor into the situation while I often bring emotional drama to the table. Emotional drama doesn't help any situation.
He also brings a calm into the picture. This is an art I am trying to learn. It's not easy.
There is a difference between passion and emotional outbursts. Passion is a part of your fabric that you bring to projects and strategies you care deeply about. Emotions are often misguided reactions that can destroy a project and strategy quickly.
Our family is very emotional. We are very loud and fun and also quick to bring an emotional response to our friends and colleagues. While that can be engaging and fun, it can also be stressful and detrimental.
Yet you can learn to bring calm into your life and work. You can learn to pause in situations and look at the big picture before responding. Here are three key calming rules I am focusing on:
1) Never respond to an email, voice mail, text, post or other communication when angry.
No Regrets.
2) If you find your voice rising. Take 5 Deep Breaths.
This Really Works!
3) Ask others their perspective on your emotional triggers.
Your close colleagues and family know you better than you often do.
Weaving calm into your daily life needs to become a learned habit. It takes practice and patience. Have you ever communicated emotionally and regretted it later? What did you do to improve your communcation style?
Today's Weave of the Day; Practice calm. Practice. Practice. Practice. (It just may make Perfect)
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