Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Schmooz your way to business success | BNet | Steve Tobak

How to Schmooze Your 

Way to Business Success

The Corner Office   |  Steve Tobak

Anyone who says that schmoozing isn’t critical to business success is just being disingenuous. It’s certainly been a big part of my success. If you knew me, this would come as no surprise. My wife calls me a BSer. There may be some truth to that on a personal level, but when it comes to business, I take schmoozing very seriously.

You see, business success is all about relationships, and schmoozing enables relationships. A couple of weeks ago we discussed how your network is your biggest asset, especially for top execs. Well, schmoozing is how you network. It also plays a big role in marketing and sales, getting deals done, developing and maintaining long-term relationships with customers, garnering support from your peers and coworkers, selling your ideas, even getting ahead in your career.

I’m still willing to bet that some of you, like my wife, think schmoozing is all about BSing, telling people what they want to hear, that sort of thing. So not true. In fact, the actual definition of schmooze is “to converse informally, to chat, or to chat in a friendly and persuasive manner especially so as to gain favor, business, or connections.” Who among you doesn’t consider that to be a critical part of business success?

And while successful schmoozing is all about being open and genuine, about connecting with people, there are plenty of lines you shouldn’t cross. Just follow these 10 Tips to Becoming a Great Schmoozer and you won’t go astray:

  1. Don’t BS. Let’s get one thing straight. BSing destroys credibility. If you want to become a successful executive or leader, don’t BS. Period. It doesn’t matter how smart others think you are, just how smart you really are.
  2. It’s never about you; it’s always about them. Connecting with people means finding things you have in common, or even different views on a subject you both feel strongly about. You already know you, what you don’t know is them.
  3. People like to be schmoozed. I know some will disagree, but they’re wrong. People like attention, to be noticed, to connect and engage. That is, as long as you’re straightforward about it.
  4. Be open and genuine. Be you. The most effective way to connect with people and find common ground is to be yourself, with all your native charm, faults, and idiosyncrasies. There’s nothing more attractive than genuine humanity - humility, humor, being yourself.
  5. Don’t overdo it. Next to BSing and trying to be someone you’re not, trying too hard is the biggest schmoozing pitfall. Pushing too hard will backfire.
  6. Everyone is schmoozable. CEOs, VCs, tough administrative assistants, everyone is schmoozable, for the simple reason that everyone likes the attention … under the right conditions.
  7. Always be appropriate. Never overstep your bounds or make others feel uncomfortable. Never invade someone’s personal space. Not sure what the boundaries are? It’s different for everyone, so pay attention; they’ll let you know.
  8. Always be respectful of people’s time. Now more than ever, our time is our most precious resource. Enough said.
  9. Don’t talk at people. Nobody likes to be talked at. They like to be engaged. They like to be listened to. There’s a big difference. Just remember: give a little, get a little.
  10. Let yourself be schmoozed. Although, by definition, schmoozing is related to persuasion, you’ll be better off just thinking of it in terms of long-term relationships. That means you should always be willing to help people first. It’s good Karma
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"Change is a campaign not a decision..." and more 7 change "truths" | Harvard Business Review

Seven Truths about Change to Lead By and Live By

Rosabeth Moss Kanter

I call these the Change Agent Bumper Stickers. Here are seven universal sayings that can comfort and guide anyone engaged in the effort of setting a new direction, orchestrating innovation, establishing a culture, or changing behavior.

"Change is a threat when done to me, but an opportunity when done by me." I coined this truth in my book The Change Masters, which compared innovation-friendly and innovation-stifling corporate cultures, and then saw it in operation in personal relationships, too. Resistance is always greatest when change is inflicted on people without their involvement, making the change effort feel oppressive or constraining. If it is possible to tie change to things people already want, and give them a chance to act on their own goals and aspirations, then it is met with more enthusiasm and commitment. In fact, they then seek innovation on their own.

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step."Big goals can seem overwhelming. The magnitude of the problem, the difficulty of the solutions, the length of the time horizon, and the number of action items can make change feel so complex that people feel paralyzed, and nothing happens. This saying from China's Chairman Mao is a reminder to get moving. Do something, get started, take the first steps however small they seem, and the journey is underway.

"If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there." A clear destination is necessary to guide the journey of change. Many change efforts falter because of confusion over exactly where everyone is expected to arrive. In the children's book, Alice in Wonderland, Alice, who is confused anyway, asks the Cheshire cat which road she should take. The magical cat responds with this helpful reminder to pin down your goal first. Zoom in on the destination on your mental map, and then zoom out to pick the best path.

"Change is a campaign, not a decision." How many people make vows to improve their diet and exercise, then feel so good about the decision that they reward themselves with ice cream and sit down to read a book? CEOs and senior executives make pronouncements about change all the time, and then launch programs that get ignored. To change behavior requires a campaign, with constant communication, tools and materials, milestones, reminders, and rewards.

"When you come to a fork in the road, take it." Baseball legend Yogi Berra was known for oddball sayings that contain gems. There is an aspect of change that involves trial and error. Fear of mistakes can sometimes leave paths unexplored. It's important to seize unexpected opportunities. Some sidelines are dead ends, but others might prove to be faster routes to the goals.

"Everything can look like a failure in the middle." I've observed this so often that I call it Kanter's Law. There are numerous roadblocks, obstacles, and surprises on the journey to change, and each one tempts us to give up. Give up prematurely, and the change effort is automatically a failure. Find a way around the obstacles, perhaps by making some tweaks in the plan, and keep going. Persistence and perseverance are essential to successful innovation and change.

"Be the change you seek to make in the world." Leaders must embody the values and principles they want other people to adopt. This famous Gandhi quote reminds us all — executives with associates, political leaders with followers, or parents with children — that one of the most important tasks is personal: to be a role model, exemplifying the best of what the change is all about.

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Sunday, October 17, 2010

LjjSpeaks Blogpost: Is Technology Bridging Friendships or Creating Barriers?

Are we 'friendship lite'  or embracing new bridges to friendship?

I read the commentary (link below)  from Neal Gabler.  The statistics reported are valid. Yet all l I want to do after reading the statistics is prove them and Gabler's writing that follows invalid:   "...It is increasingly difficult to find deep social interaction any place but on TV."

In the Commentary "The social networks," Neal Gabler writes that social networking is 'friendship lite.'

Statistics reported: 

"One study found that Americans had one-third fewer nonfamily confidants than they had 20 years earlier, and 25% had no one in whom to confide whatsoever. Another study of 3,000 Americans found that on average they had only four close social contacts, but these included family members like one's own spouse."

While reading the commentary I wondered why:
A  spouse or family member doesn't count as close social contacts
A person we may confide in via new tools of technology isn't counted in social contacts

If we could count them in - would the statistics be different?   

As technology continues to create communication tools that some say cause barriers to each other, I'd like to think they build bridges with each other.  

I'd like to build stories that  validate the bridges in business,  life, communities. Do you have a story to tell?  Or do you think we have become a Nation of "friendship lite?"  

Please share your thoughts!

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Wednesday, October 13, 2010

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Are You Working With Zombies? (Great Ghoulish Read!) | Harvard Business Review

The Zombie Workplace Survival Guide

Max Brooks' cult classic, The Zombie Survival Guide, a New York Times bestseller, chronicles a series of (hopefully) fictitious zombie outbreaks and attacks throughout human history, then shares best practices on how to survive them. The book is perhaps a leading indicator of increased cultural and academic interest in the topic. For instance, there's a newzombie-themed cable program about to launch and even mathematicians are building rigorous models (PDF) on the likelihood of a zombie outbreak leading to "the collapse of civilization."

In our own recent research, which includes dozens of interviews on innovation and intrapreneurship, we've noted how certain workplace practices can destroy employees' willingness to use their higher cognitive functions, like imagination and trust. Just as a virus Brooks calls "Solanum" turns people into zombies, the four contagions we describe below can create a zombie workplace — where creative people and good ideas disturbingly molder. But please don't panic if there appears to be an outbreak in your office, since we offer several survival tips as well.

First Contagion: Imbalance between idea generation and managerial attention. Consider a once-thriving global technology organization, that, when the economy turned, solicited employees' ideas to help set a new strategic direction. They called it "10 for 10: 10 big ideas for the next 10 years!" and set up idea drop boxes throughout the company. In four weeks, employees dropped in 1,200 ideas, six per employee.

Managers were overwhelmed by the response and unable to effectively evaluate ideas or provide feedback. By the time the company discovered that generating ideas is a lot easier than managing them, it was already too late. It had turned into a zombie workplace. The CEO called it an "absolute disaster...we ended up [angering] more staff than those we appeased, lost good employees who felt their ideas were not duly considered...We all lost, I will never do this again...we might never recover the trust and camaraderie that we had prior to this undertaking."

Survival tip: Dedicate enough managerial bandwidth to ensure transparency and idea advocacy. Managers must let employees know where to submit an idea, how long will it take for an idea advocate to review it, and when the idea will get feedback. Leading organizations also build idea advocacy maps. They track ideas like parcels, with tracking numbers. One large bank we studied takes this one step further, creating an online repository where ideas can be submitted, allowing peer-to-peer feedback to refine ideas, understand their business value, and ensure that the submitter can adequately communicate their ideas with executives.

Second Contagion: Leaving experimenters to their own devices. Zombie Survival Guide author Brooks writes, "Attempting to accomplish a task, failing, then by trial and error discovering a new solution, is a skill shared by many members of the animal kingdom but lost on the walking dead." In our own research, we sometimes hear about a related phenomenon: organizations fail to learn from earlier or other ongoing experiments. Rather than tapping an organization's collective intelligence, this freewheeling approach allows valuable funding to be spent on reinventing the wheel, or worse, encourages employees to make the same mistake ceaselessly like brain-dead zombies.

Survival tip: Capture Lessons Learned. Written case studies in the form of stories or reports can serve to capture the lessons learned during the experimentation process. Postmortems, even a simple review of checklists (what was accomplished, what was missing etc.) will help as well. A lessons learned document should not overvalue experiments that yielded successful or expected outcomes. Often the experiments that yield unexpected results have the greatest potential to generate new knowledge by offering the opportunity to learn and reflect. Google, for instance, has integrated the experimentation process and the potential for failure or abandonment into its corporate identity. The company launches its products in beta testing mode, acknowledging that no product is perfect, even though millions of customers might be using the product every day.

Third Contagion: Getting Too Far Ahead of the Curve. Many innovation specialists recognize the so-called "valley of death," characterized by underfunding and undermanaging the development of an idea. But later they fall victim to inattention to market conditions. In the early 1990s, Nagesh Challa invented the Media Stick, a 2-megabyte storage device for PCs and mobile phones, "but people did not know what to do with that much storage space." Challa found himself again fighting for survival when he founded Ecrio in 1998. Ahead of the curve, and thus vulnerable to a zombie workplace outbreak, he pitched his idea for a multimedia device to a number of mobile phone companies. He was repeatedly told, "We're looking for something simpler."

Survival tip: Active Waiting. In such cases, actively wait for a change in the market conditions before introducing an idea, and use your best data monitoring and analytical techniques to guide your timing. Consider the calculus of the movie industry regarding release dates. The major studios consult the National Research Group (NRG) Competitive Positioning report before they finalize the all-important opening date for a movie. The report lets them know "when one of [its] films is on a collision course with a competitor's film that appeals to the same herd...and the losing studio can reschedule its opening to a different weekend, even if it's a less advantageous time period (i.e., not the summer and not the holidays)."

Fourth Contagion: Colleagues hear your ideas as noise. In our recent survey, we found that 98 percent of employees have ideas they believe could be developed into at least one useful innovation within the next four years. Yet, our research also shows that most employees cannot decide which among their collection of ideas they want to pursue. Lacking the focus or guts to see any idea to completion, many end up being perceived as generating a lot of noise, like meaningless groans from a pack of zombies. Organizations that show a lack confidence and trust in creative people may be showing signs of a zombie workplace outbreak.

Survival tip: Perform analytical work on your ideas. For any idea that you have, take your initial estimate of the amount of time it might to take to develop, and then multiply it by five. This is about how much time will be really required, according to practitioners we've interviewed. Next, recall a fundamental law of economics: You are trying to satisfy unlimited wants (ideas) with limited resources (time and energy). So be conscientious about the ideas that you focus on in order to optimize these two valuable resources. For instance, we talked to successful innovators that not only maintain an idea portfolio, but also identify the various dimensions on which their ideas differ from one another. Some ideas may be concerned with local operations, while others might have global or organizational implications. Doing some of your own analytical work will win you credibility, or can begin to rebuild trust in your ideas.

We hope this survival guide can prevent your office from becoming a zombie workplace. If it's too late, we would love to hear the gory details. Have you ever witnessed a zombie workplace outbreak? And what have you done about it?

H. James Wilson is a senior researcher at Babson Executive Education. Kevin C. Desouza is an associate professor at the Information School of the University of Washington. His next book,Intrapreneurship: Managing Ideas within the Organization, will be released next year.

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Friday, October 8, 2010

Accountability: It's a lifestyle | Todd Smith

Personal Accountability: A requirement for life advancement.  | Todd Smth   |    www.littlethingsmatter.com


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Original Post: http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/10/07/personal-accountability—a-requirement-for-life-advancement/


Accountability is normally viewed as being responsible—giving an explanation of your actions—to somebody for something.  However, today’s lesson is not about someone holding you accountable. It’s about you holding yourself accountable.

When you take 100 percent responsibility for holding yourself accountable, your performance will improve, your relationships will flourish, your market value will soar, people’s respect for you will skyrocket, you will be a great example for others to follow, and your self-esteem will grow.

How is it that in all these areas of your life you can see such dramatic improvement?  Because when you hold yourself accountable to doing the things you know you should do, you will distinguish yourself from the crowd.

I am convinced if you want to advance your life personally or professionally, you must hold yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals.  Think about it. Why should it be someone else’s job to make sure you are doing the things that you know you should to be doing?

The mindset I adopted more than 25 years ago is this: it is up to me and no one else to make sure I am doing what I know I should be doing. When someone has to hold me accountable, because I failed to do what I should have done, I have a serious conversation with myself. My belief is that no one should have to hold me accountable for my actions, responsibilities and goals. While I appreciate others helping me get better, I am the one that must hold myself to a high standard.

Three Types of Accountability

There are three areas in which you must hold yourself accountable:

1.    Your actions and choices—This would include such things as:

  • The way in which you communicate with others
  • How you spend your time
  • Your behavior and manners
  • The consideration and respect you show others
  • Your eating habits and exercising routine
  • Your attitude and thoughts
  • The way you respond to challenges

2.    Your responsibilities—This would include these types of things:

  • Returning calls, emails, and texts in a timely manner
  • Being on time for business and personal appointments
  • Keeping your home, car, and workplace clean
  • Spending less than you earn
  • Doing the things you agreed to do when you agreed to do them
  • Executing your job description to the best of your ability
  • Writing things down on a “To Do” list so you don’t forget

3.    Your goals—This would include your:

  • Fitness and health targets
  • Financial goals
  • Family objectives
  • Career ambitions
  • Personal goals
  • Marital enhancement
  • Any other goals you have set for yourself

Make no mistake about it. You cannot achieve any worthwhile personal or professional goal, if you don’t hold yourself accountable. The reason is simple. It’s your life!  If you have to be held accountable at work, don’t expect to be promoted or to experience any type of significant career advancement. If you have to be held accountable at home by your parents, roommate or spouse, it will grow old fast and your relationships will deteriorate.

Holding yourself accountable is nothing more than following through with YOUR commitments and responsibilities.  It’s doing what YOU know YOU should do, when YOU should it.

Whether you are 15 years old or 60 years old, let today be the day that you make the commitment to yourself that you will NEVER again require anyone else to hold you accountable.  Let me also encourage you to start keeping aprioritized “To Do” list and focus on holding yourself accountable to working through your tasks in a prioritized sequence.

This is your life!  Take control. Be responsible for it.

Like many of my posts, there will be exceptions. If you are struggling with personal accountability and need the help of others, then I encourage you to seek it.

What’s helped you become a more accountable person?  Please share your tips, thoughts and ideas below this post.

If you will hold yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals, you can achieve anything that is important to you.

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About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 29 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are listed #33 in America’s top 100 podcasts.)

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Social Networking ranked "preeminent time waster" | IAB SmartBrief | AdWeek

Social Networking: A Waste of Time?

It polls higher than fantasy sports and TV viewing as time waster

Oct 7, 2010

Original Post:  http://www.adweek.com/aw/content_display/news/agency/e3i97370d68f17e6f271707a5d08ee6af84

Here's a sign of social networking's growing presence in modern life: It has surpassed TV viewing as the preeminent waster of people's time. At any rate, it tops the waste-of-time standings in a 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair poll released this week.

Respondents were given a list of six activities and asked to pick the one they regard as "your biggest waste of time." A plurality (36 percent) chose "social networking," putting it easily ahead of runner-up "fantasy sports" (25 percent) and third-place "watching television" (23 percent). Few votes went to "shopping" (9 percent), "reading" (2 percent) or "your job" (2 percent).

While the poll didn't include "sexual fantasizing" among its options for biggest waster of time, it likely encouraged some with another of its questions. People were asked to say which of six women they consider "the most eligible single woman in the world."

Among male respondents, Jennifer Aniston and Halle Berry tied for the most votes (27 percent 
apiece), followed by Tiger Woods' ex-wife Elin Nordegren (16 percent), Lady Gaga (9 percent), Betty White (7 percent) and Elena Kagan (4 percent).

Aniston was tops among the poll's female respondents (32 percent). Closely bunched were Berry (16 percent), Nordegren (15 percent) and White (14 percent), with Kagan (5 percent) and Gaga (2 percent) trailing. 

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Kids Money Management Learned From Their Parents: (Uh Oh) Harvard Buisiness Journal Daily Stat

OCTOBER 8, 2010
Parents Are Poor Teachers 
of Money Management
Most young people learn money management from their parents, but that method clearly isn't working, say Kayla Allen and Victoria Kinchen of Southeastern Louisiana University.65% of students in a survey say their parents were their teachers in financial matters, but of that group, 28% report saving no money on a monthly basis, 72% never check their credit scores, and 75% have no written budgets. Yet 94% of all the respondents rate their personal financial-management performance as "OK" or better.
Source: Global Journal of Business Research

Download Paper:  http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=1555194


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Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Harvard Business Review: Are decisions being made in meetings? Really?

Most Meetings End Before 
Decisions Are Made
Managers spend 50% or more of their time in meetings, but Bain & Company research shows that two-thirds of meetings end before participants can make important decisions. Not surprisingly, 85% of executives are dissatisfied with the efficiency and effectiveness of their companies' meetings, according to Marcia W. Blenko, Michael C. Mankins, and Paul Rogers, authors of Decide & Deliver: 5 Steps to Breakthrough Performance in Your Organization.
Source: Decide & Deliver: 5 Steps to Breakthrough Performance in Your Organization

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LjjSpeaks BlogPost: Do you have the persistence of a fly or the patience of a flyswatter?

Lynne Jarman-Johnson
October 5, 2010

I’ve swatted two flies this morning.  There’s a third one is buzzing around and he’s about to meet his early demise as well.  It’s not easy to swat a fly.  

You need the right tools at just the right moment. 
A rolled up paper seems to work in a pinch.  Your hand? Not so much.  

I wonder why flies gather ‘round the spot where they will most likely be swatted. They buzz near your ear until you’ve decided you’ve had enough - and it’s time for you to submit your power. You weigh more. You are bigger. You are patient.  You are stealth.

Yet - there always seems to be that one lingering fly.  The fly has no concern about her friends gathered in a pile nearby.  She continues to pester, continues to attack, continues to relentlessly dive bomb the area.

And so you wait. Armed with one of the brightest inventions on our planet - the flyswatter. According to Inventors.com the the flyswatter first made news in 1905:

Fly Swatter
In 1905, Dr. Samuel J. Crumbine, a member of the Kansas State Board of Health, set out to rid the state of a bumper crop of flies and combat the public’s indifference to the pests. While attending a Topeka softball game, Crumbine was inspired by the crowd’s chant of "swat the ball." The next issue of his Fly Bulletin bore the headline "SWAT THE FLY." This in turn inspired a school teacher, Frank H. Rose to construct a device from a yardstick and a piece of screen. The holes in the screen were essential because a fly can sense the air pressure of a solid object like a hand. Rose called his invention a "fly bat." Dr. Crumbine renamed it "fly swatter."

Other Fly Killers

Advertisement for "The King Fly Swatter" from 1905, June, issue of Ladies Home Journal.

    

The above text reads:  
   
The King Fly Killer - Kills Without Crushing - Soils Nothing
   
The wire being almost invisible the flies and mosquitos are quickly killed, thus clearing your house of them in only a few minutes. A prominent lady has said, " It is the most prized article in my home."

As this blog continues to formulate on this page, the fly takes another pass over my MacBook Pro.  Uggh he just landed on the lip of my coffee cup. I am now officially declaring war.

What can we learn from the fly, the fly”swatter” and the real tool that has become “the most prized article in our homes?”  

  1. There will always a communication style that buzzes, mystifies, and never stops its relentless pounding of information into our senses.
  2. There will always a communication style that slams the door shut hard and fast on any entry into your space. 
  3. There will always be a miracle tool to use to take care of both styles.  One is the flyswatter. The other is persistence.  

Three flies greeted me this morning.  Two met the 1905 invention.  One is a persistent little bugger.  I’m just as persistent.  In this case -as in most cases - the MOST persistent AND patient will claim victory.

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